First of all, Congratulations to her on 36 years - quite an accomplishment! Secondly, go out and buy an auto pilot, Ipod, and a learn to crochet book. This way, when she wants to spend time with you and you want to fish, she can drive the boat (auto pilot), listen to her Ipod (good music=good mood and no talking) and crocheting (sense of accomplishement and being occupied). Of course you'll have to relocate all your electronics to the back of the boat so she doesn't "adjust" them for you and buy her DARK sunglasses for your "buffy" fishing. Better get a pool and "pool boy". Good luck! I have a feeling you will be doing a lot of HVAC service work in Orleans County.
Shawn